Oh, Rosie

I am so obsessed with my watching of "The Secret" that I think about it constantly and, in thinking about it, see the way I do attract the crap into my life. Learning a lesson does not necessarily help you change it all. That is the part that takes all the work. Hard, hard work.

I watch Rosie O'Donnell and see the opposite of the secret in action, even though I believe she is a good person with only the best intentions in mind. I watch her put out the things she most wants to end. She wants to help with a movement to impeach Bush and spews hate towards him with her words and writings constantly. She wants to end conflict with more conflict. If conflict is what she sends out, it is the only thing she will ever get back.

To work towards a cause is admirable, but to do it in the absolute wrong way is why people say "the road to hell is paved with good intentions". Her ways are like correcting a child for hitting his friend by hitting him. The way we live our life changes the world, not our anger and rage.

Anyone with even one other family member realizes that peace is not a true possibility, let alone in the worldwide sense. That cause for which one would defend, another would die on the front lines to change. It will always be that way. Not once, in the history, present or future of the world, will every human stand in agreement about ANYTHING, EVER.

One person could anger you to the core telling the evils of what a president has done to their life by the actions they took while another could step up a minute later and tell you why that same action saved their life, touching your heart and making you realize that everything that ever happens is both right and wrong depending on the outcome for each person individually.

When people present something to you with too much anger, their message becomes just anger. So that what they wish to convey is useless because who they are speaks so loud you can't even hear what they are saying. Anger, insults, rage, conflict, intolerance and failing to accept the views of anyone else will never inspire anyone, nor will it magically change into peace and acceptance. You cannot mix garbage in your blender and expect to get a chocolate milkshake.

So, Rosie, if you want all the things you say you want then take some positive action. Love even your enemy, forgive yourself for your mistakes and forgive others that make them too. Live a peaceful and loving life and watch those things come back to you. When Elisabeth has an opposite view, love that in America we can have them, even if we disagree with every fiber of our being. When you feel gays are being bashed, don't give someone a reason to bash some more. That Clay thing, yeah, that was not good. If a straight person had done the same thing and disrespected a host in that way, would you have been so angry? Would you have been so angry if she did it to President Bush? Or would you have applauded it?

If peace and harmony, in a realistic sense, is what you want, then live that way. You would inspire more people supporting our troops without disrespecting a job, leader and cause they believe in, accepting Elisabeth's comments without insult, living a life that promotes gay rights, not by conflict, but by example and showing support to a wronged person instead of insulting the wrongee right back.

Everything you wish for this world is what you need to be doing in your own life. Start there. Turn it around and start practicing what you preach. If you truly want to change the world, start with yourself. You have a great opportunity and you are just abusing the power in your hands. I can only inspire a small number, you could inspire millions. The conflict in your head right now is making it known that you are walking down the wrong path. You say you have not forgiven yourself for the comments to Elisabeth, while she has said she has forgiven you.

Start today, forgive yourself and do better. Everything that you want is worthy and people will hear you when you convey it with actions and not angry words.

Why am I writing an open letter to Rosie that she will never read?? Maybe because, on a smaller scale, I am just like that. Most of us are just like that. We scream for change while doing everything to prevent it.

Brooke came home from her christian preschool all upset the other day. She is afraid of God and doesn't want to go "up in da sky" ever. She said they told her God wants to give her peace and she "don't wanna a piece" because she can't figure out what he wants to give her a piece of, but if it is that living in the sky forever thing, she "don't want it". So, at this tender age, the world is on their shoulders., that fear of dying and learning about this higher power that wants you to come home someday and all you want is Mommy and Daddy forever when you are three years old.

Sometimes the truth is just too much, whether it is about heaven or the conflicts of the world with all the conspiracy theories and wrong happenings every second. Sometimes, in a world of constant chaos, we just need to feel safe and loved. We need someone to tell us it is okay to forget about all those pressing matters and just be happy for what we have in this second, a warm place to cuddle and unlimited showings of Blue's Clues on demand..........