Disappearance of SIL From Hell
It is such a predictable thing. The assholes of the world, that when they can get something out of you, they ALWAYS seem to be around. When the times comes that they are required to do something for you or owe you something, such as late escrow payments, they disappear.
It makes me wonder about her whole drunken, say inappropriate things to my 13 year old daughter, walk around town telling stories about us taking her house and the other things she did that would certainly come back to us. Was this her plan?? Did we fall right into it? In some sober moment when her mind was off drinking and saying nasty, filthy things, did a lightbulb go off that said, ruin relationship with the people that helped you for the last two years so that you have an excuse to be out of their good graces, to not be speaking, to NOT have to pay what you owe.
The fact that she has not tried to call and beg for forgiveness, try and make amends over the situation and blame her divorce leads me to believe this is exactly what she wanted. She doesn't go away this easy...she never goes away. Not until now, the time when she owes us part of the payment. The fact that she owes that part each and every month and will, obviously, not be making it now.
To think I actually started feeling bad about it. How she hadn't called, chalking it up to "She definitely knows she crossed the line and now she cannot find a way to make up for something that bad. How hard that must be.". I am such a fool! She did it, planned it, wanted to cause some sort of break off to get out of her responsibilites. She came that night on a mission. As bad as she generally is, she was worse that night, singing, monopolizing the whole night with loud,inappropriate talk, singing, spilling beer....she knew exactly what she was doing. She was laying the tracks to fuck us over!!!
When you are young and naive, you think everyone has a chance in life. A chance to be fixed, get better, do better and just like in a movie, change their ways for the better and live happily ever after. Then you grow up and realize that neuro-pathways are very hard to re-route and that some people are not only unwilling to change, but are so bad that change, is quite possibly, impossible.
I cleaned for her, listened to her cry and bitch about her miserable existance at 7am, 3am, and all hours inbetween. Her problems were always bigger, people were always out to ruin her life and she was always worse off and in more need than anyone else...according to her. I invited her and welcomed her into my home when no one else would give her the time of day. In the final act, I pay dearly. I guess it is true what they say...........
no good deed goes unpunished.
It makes me wonder about her whole drunken, say inappropriate things to my 13 year old daughter, walk around town telling stories about us taking her house and the other things she did that would certainly come back to us. Was this her plan?? Did we fall right into it? In some sober moment when her mind was off drinking and saying nasty, filthy things, did a lightbulb go off that said, ruin relationship with the people that helped you for the last two years so that you have an excuse to be out of their good graces, to not be speaking, to NOT have to pay what you owe.
The fact that she has not tried to call and beg for forgiveness, try and make amends over the situation and blame her divorce leads me to believe this is exactly what she wanted. She doesn't go away this easy...she never goes away. Not until now, the time when she owes us part of the payment. The fact that she owes that part each and every month and will, obviously, not be making it now.
To think I actually started feeling bad about it. How she hadn't called, chalking it up to "She definitely knows she crossed the line and now she cannot find a way to make up for something that bad. How hard that must be.". I am such a fool! She did it, planned it, wanted to cause some sort of break off to get out of her responsibilites. She came that night on a mission. As bad as she generally is, she was worse that night, singing, monopolizing the whole night with loud,inappropriate talk, singing, spilling beer....she knew exactly what she was doing. She was laying the tracks to fuck us over!!!
When you are young and naive, you think everyone has a chance in life. A chance to be fixed, get better, do better and just like in a movie, change their ways for the better and live happily ever after. Then you grow up and realize that neuro-pathways are very hard to re-route and that some people are not only unwilling to change, but are so bad that change, is quite possibly, impossible.
I cleaned for her, listened to her cry and bitch about her miserable existance at 7am, 3am, and all hours inbetween. Her problems were always bigger, people were always out to ruin her life and she was always worse off and in more need than anyone else...according to her. I invited her and welcomed her into my home when no one else would give her the time of day. In the final act, I pay dearly. I guess it is true what they say...........
no good deed goes unpunished.
posted by Sunny at Tuesday, May 02, 2006
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